The Importance of Fathers

Fathers offer a powerful presence. If it had not been for fathers, there would not be children. Adam was the first that was created and he was created by God. . Not to say that mothers are not important, but we all know that fathers bear the seed. Many times, society paints a picture of fathers as absent, abusive, and uncommitted. Perception is quite powerful, and it tends to shape our reality if we allow it.

Adam was the first father, Abraham was the father of many nations, and God is our Holy Father.

In the Lord’s Prayer the first line states “Our Father”. We need not focus on the world’s perception of the lack of fatherly influences, the lack of fatherly examples, or the lack of fatherly commitment.   Father’s Day is highly important.  As we remember and honor our earthly fathers, let us commit to draw closer to our Heavenly Father.

Yes, perception is powerful. I choose not to perceive as the world that many fathers are absent or uncommitted; however, I perceive fatherhood as a gift. That gift contains a position of influence. Always remember,  despite our earthly experiences, we will always have a Heavenly Father to depend on.

Happy Father’s Day.


I Am My Husband’s Rib!

Genesis 2-21-23  So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep. While the man slept, the LORD God took out one of the man’s ribs and closed up the opening. Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib, and he brought her to the man.“At last!” the man exclaimed.“This one is bone from my bone, and flesh from my flesh! She will be called ‘woman,’ because she was taken from ‘man.’”

After Scott passed away, I was alone and because I enjoyed marriage, I desired to start a life with another husband. I was 59 years old and I realized that for all practical reasons, most of my life was behind me. I enjoyed the marriage I had with Scott and it was my prayer that God send me someone else to be my husband. Today, a year later, I feel I have found not only my husband but that my husband has found his rib. Each marriage has a uniqueness that I dare not to compare; however, each of my  successful marriages had a common  main component needed in every marriage and that is God’s love. The love of God that lives in our husbands is powerful, meaningful, and wonderful. I know that I am my husband’s rib because service is a very important part of our relationship. Not how he can serve me but how I can serve him. Here are some points I would like for you to ponder:

  • His “rib” in me enables me to always desires the best for my husband at all times. If he is stressed about anything, I will pray for him and encourage him that everything will be alright.
  • You know when you are your husband’s rib when he is your favorite teacher and human role model. You find yourself getting the best advice from him and remembering that advice in times of conflict and confusion that we all experience in the world.
  • You know you are your husband’s rib when you are physically attracted to him in all stages of life. Even as he grows old and gray, with or without teeth, he is the most handsome man in your eyes because you are his “rib”.

They say marriage is challenging and tough, with ups and downs but I believe if you are married to your “rib” things may be tough and challenging but they will not feel that way because your husband is always praying for his “rib” and that brings peace to the marriage. This  is the same peace that is so misunderstood by the world.

Many of you want to be connected to the carrier of your “rib” and the way to connect to that person is quite simple. The first step is to ask God for the connection and the second and most important step is to believe that your husband is accessible despite what the world may say. The final step is to accept him as a gift from God regardless of the human package he may be in.  Once this happens, you will know your husband as you know yourself because when you know yourself, you will recognize the rib that is within him as you!!

Clarity of Purpose

What is clarity of purpose? How do we get clarity of purpose? Clarity of purpose tells us who we are, who’s we are, where are we going, how we are going to get there, and sometimes we will even understand why. Before we are to get clarity in our purpose we must first ask for it.  God speaks to us each day, but we only can hear him with open ears.

Scripture says in Proverbs 3-5-7 “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will make straight your paths”

For us to hear God, we must acknowledge God.  And for us to acknowledge God,  we must trust God. Trusting God means knowing that despite what we see, all is well. What we see is temporary.  God is always before us seeing things in the spirit where  many times we only see things through fleshly eyes.

Many of us wear our glasses and without those glasses, we have a difficult time seeing the things that are right in front of us. By trusting God, He can change and prescribe a lens  that when we look through that lens we see clearly !!

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding.”

We must realize that our understanding is so limited. Our understand is many times mixed with emotions, feelings, circumstances and life struggles. As we trust God to be with us, he will speak to us thereby solving our most crucial dilemmas.  Trusting God gives us the assurance that all is well despite circumstances.

Once we have clarity of purpose we will see things unfold just as God planned and not as we planned it and what God plans is so much better than what we plan!

It is never wise to lean on our understanding. Who are we to understand anything! Do we try to understand the clouds in the air, why the wind blows, the seasons, where we’re going, and when we will get there– trust means that in ALL things we are guided by God.

“In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will make straight your paths”

Clarity of purpose comes with an acknowledgement  of God. We  acknowledge God by  seeking  Him, obeying Him, and hearing Him! Understanding comes when we realize that we don’t have the power to straighten our lives! God is the only one to make straight our paths only as we turn our lives over to him.

Do we really desire clarity of purpose?  Are we seeking purpose by reading God’s word while praying and meditating on it? Think about it and never cease to reflect on the fact that whatever’s going on in our life it is working out for our good!

Rest But No Sleep

How many of us have had times when we could not sleep. Sometimes it was because of stress, worry, or pain. Many times it may be because of resentment, lack of forgiveness, and discontentment with our situation of life.

God can give us rest without sleep because sometimes sleep will be withheld to give us a quiet time with God. Scripture says in Matthew 11 28–30

“Come unto me all you who are struggling hard and carrying heavy loads, and I will give you rest. Put on my yoke and learn from me. I am gentle and humble and you will find rest for your souls. My yoke is easy to bear and my burden is light”

When reading this passage, I see that Jesus is not offering rest to everyone. He is telling us specifically who he is talking to. He did not say come rich, come powerful people, come wise, or come fools. This was a special offer to the weary. I think Jesus knew the circumstances where we would seek rest. He knew he needed words of life for those who are in the struggle

Rest  is a spiritual gift whereas  sleep is a physical condition. God gives us rest when we come to him and give him our burdens. It seems such an uneven exchange – Burdens for rest. But he is accustomed to uneven exchanges for he exchanged our sin for the gift of  eternal life. Also in the scripture, he is asking that we learn of him. Then he tells us what we will learn. How many teachers give us a test and then tell us the answer. But in the passage, Jesus does just that. He said exactly what you will learn ” I am gentle and humble and you will find rest for yourself” Jesus offers us rest but we must seek it with open eyes. He will not show it. It is up to us to find it. We can find it in the beautiful sunrise and sunset, in the quiet sounds of the night, and in the chirping of the birds. When we acknowledge all of creation and see it as our gift from God, we experience rest. In verse 30 it says ” my yoke is easy and my burden is light” The dictionary defines yoke as a wooden cross piece that is fastened over the neck of two animals and attached to the plow. When I read this Jesus is saying as long as you are attached(yoked) to me, I will pull you along with virtually no effort from you. It is the attachment (yoke) to him that gives rest.

It says “my yoke is easy my burden is light. Look at the word light. When Jesus said my burden is light it did not refer to the extent or weight of the burden but that Jesus burden gives us light because he exchanges our burdens for his light.

Jesus had no burdens because he had no sin!  He bore our burdens to give us light and with light we can experience rest!

Yes rest might not  always brings sleep but rest will give us a spiritual experience that will usher in the peace that goes beyond understanding