The Importance of Fathers

Fathers offer a powerful presence. If it had not been for fathers, there would not be children. Adam was the first that was created and he was created by God. . Not to say that mothers are not important, but we all know that fathers bear the seed. Many times, society paints a picture of fathers as absent, abusive, and uncommitted. Perception is quite powerful, and it tends to shape our reality if we allow it.

Adam was the first father, Abraham was the father of many nations, and God is our Holy Father.

In the Lord’s Prayer the first line states “Our Father”. We need not focus on the world’s perception of the lack of fatherly influences, the lack of fatherly examples, or the lack of fatherly commitment.   Father’s Day is highly important.  As we remember and honor our earthly fathers, let us commit to draw closer to our Heavenly Father.

Yes, perception is powerful. I choose not to perceive as the world that many fathers are absent or uncommitted; however, I perceive fatherhood as a gift. That gift contains a position of influence. Always remember,  despite our earthly experiences, we will always have a Heavenly Father to depend on.

Happy Father’s Day.


I Am My Husband’s Rib!

Genesis 2-21-23  So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep. While the man slept, the LORD God took out one of the man’s ribs and closed up the opening. Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib, and he brought her to the man.“At last!” the man exclaimed.“This one is bone from my bone, and flesh from my flesh! She will be called ‘woman,’ because she was taken from ‘man.’”

After Scott passed away, I was alone and because I enjoyed marriage, I desired to start a life with another husband. I was 59 years old and I realized that for all practical reasons, most of my life was behind me. I enjoyed the marriage I had with Scott and it was my prayer that God send me someone else to be my husband. Today, a year later, I feel I have found not only my husband but that my husband has found his rib. Each marriage has a uniqueness that I dare not to compare; however, each of my  successful marriages had a common  main component needed in every marriage and that is God’s love. The love of God that lives in our husbands is powerful, meaningful, and wonderful. I know that I am my husband’s rib because service is a very important part of our relationship. Not how he can serve me but how I can serve him. Here are some points I would like for you to ponder:

  • His “rib” in me enables me to always desires the best for my husband at all times. If he is stressed about anything, I will pray for him and encourage him that everything will be alright.
  • You know when you are your husband’s rib when he is your favorite teacher and human role model. You find yourself getting the best advice from him and remembering that advice in times of conflict and confusion that we all experience in the world.
  • You know you are your husband’s rib when you are physically attracted to him in all stages of life. Even as he grows old and gray, with or without teeth, he is the most handsome man in your eyes because you are his “rib”.

They say marriage is challenging and tough, with ups and downs but I believe if you are married to your “rib” things may be tough and challenging but they will not feel that way because your husband is always praying for his “rib” and that brings peace to the marriage. This  is the same peace that is so misunderstood by the world.

Many of you want to be connected to the carrier of your “rib” and the way to connect to that person is quite simple. The first step is to ask God for the connection and the second and most important step is to believe that your husband is accessible despite what the world may say. The final step is to accept him as a gift from God regardless of the human package he may be in.  Once this happens, you will know your husband as you know yourself because when you know yourself, you will recognize the rib that is within him as you!!