This morning as I was struggling through my grief, I reflected on one of my students and I learned a deep lesson. – Just keep showing up!! This student has a tougher time with concepts but she always shows up to deal with them without complaint. Many times when I see her in the hallway, I will give her a math problem and she will think about it and give me an answer. She will not run away or avoid me, she meets me head on and is ready because she knows I am going to ask her something and she is not really sure if she is able to answer. Many times when I am challenged with my grief or other life problems, I may tend to want to avoid it or choose not to deal with it. Sometimes I feel so weak and frustrated I refuse to put forth my best effort. Despite the struggles in my life, I must commit to show up with a positive attitude and ready to tackle challenges regardless of how difficult they may be. Even in sadness, I need to show up and deal with this difficulty. Life is never easy, but we all must continue to fight despite our struggles knowing that as we fight, we will achieve strength and we must never compare ourselves to others that appear to have it easy.
Another quality I noticed in this student is that she stays in a positive frame of mind sharing things with me (without even knowing) that really make my day. Friday, I had an incident that was very stressful for me and it concerned my teaching or management of students. In our conversation, she made a comment that my class went by much faster than her other classes. This comment really made my day because perception is everything. When you have the perception that things are good, they are good. When you experience life in the moment enjoying each moment, life is good. Reflect on how many times you may have made a positive comment to someone and it has lifted them beyond measure. We may never know how our words can affect another person so we must maintain positives remarks that will uplift and not tear down.
That is how God works. He uses simple things to bring clarity to the complex. When I feel burdened with my heavy load that may be difficult for me—I will not look at others and see how they may not seem to struggle as I do, but I will keep my head up and press on in a positive frame of mind and do as Ymani– keep showing up!